Keep separated two different concepts:

Avoiding an unwanted pregnancy

Avoiding the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

Do not create confusion between them!

A woman becomes pregnant only when the seminal fluid emitted by the man during ejaculation penetrates the vagina, and the sperm cells contained are free to travel up towards the uterus.

A person con get a sexually transmitted disease (STD) when the microorganism that causes it, is passed from one person to another during an intercourse through exchange of body fluids, like seminal liquid, vaginal discharge, blood and – less commonly – saliva.

Pregnancy can be prevented using different methods.

The contraceptive or birth control pill is a pharmaceutical drug that hinders the formation and release of the ovum, the female reproductive cell fertilized by the sperm cell, which is the male reproductive cell. The pill is the best contraceptive method, but it needs to be prescribed by a doctor after a careful risks evaluation leading to the safest one. Always keep in mind to ask to your doctor, your gynecologist or your local health department service. You should never take the pill without a proper prescription and never take it after a friend suggestion.

You should never rely on the ovulation calculation method, indicating the period within the menstrual cycle in which a woman is less likely to conceive. A woman’s body does not have an ovulation rhythm strictly in tune with time. The 28 days between two menstrual cycles are a medium. Particularly in the younger girls the menstrual cycle period may be shorter or longer. Even during the menstrual cycle, partners may have intercourses that can potentially lead to unwanted pregnancy because the ovulation process may take place in advance, and the sperm cells remain active for some days in the female sexual organs.

You should never rely on the withdrawal or pulling out method either which is the removal of the penis from the vagina before ejaculation takes place. This method is also known as “coitus interruptus”. It’s not considered as a safe method because traces of sperm may be contained in the dew drops or transparent body fluid released by the penis well before actual ejaculation. It can also occur to fail to withdraw the penis from the vagina early enough before actual ejaculation takes place. Even if the man can execute the withdrawal, he would have to interrupt his orgasm preventing him from achieving full sexual pleasure and blocking the physiological process of seminal liquid emission. This in turn may lead to improper stimulation and inflammation of the prostate. The prostate is a sensitive gland that needs to be protected from inflammation and subsequent complications.

What about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)?

Except saliva, the transmission of body fluids from one person to another during sexual intercourses can be avoided only using a condom. Condom constitutes a barrier that prevents the passing through of

body fluids harboring viruses, bacteria and other microorganisms. By preventing contact, it prevents infections.

The use of condoms is the only reliable method to avoid either unwanted pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases.

The birth control pills or other contraceptive methods do not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases, only condoms allow you to create a protective barrier against infections. Do not confuse these two facts!

Is HIV infection the only fatal risk or are there other risks we should look out for?

The human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) is the cause of AIDS which is a very serious and fatal disease. In Italy, the new cases of HIV infections registered in 2015 are 3.444!

Thanks to recent technological and research advances, it is possible to treat HIV infection with drugs that block the progression of the infection into the disease. These treatments do not eliminate the virus altogether. Individuals who are affected by the virus (HIV Seropositive) need to be under lifelong anti-HIV therapy using a combination of several antiretroviral drugs. It’s our responsibility to take action against the spread of the virus in order to preserve our health and to break the chain of infections that lead to the further spread of the disease. Only those intercourses that do not allow the exchange of body fluids (particularly, sperm liquid and blood) are considered safe sex practices and they are achieved only through the correct use of condoms. The prevention of HIV infection and its spread is easy: it’s only required that we always use condoms and that we use them correctly.

Blood tests allow us to inspect the presence of other sexually transmitted disease. Only the knowledge that we have an infection may allow us to avoid consequent health threats and to can proceed with the appropriate treatment.

Other diseases such as syphilis, viral hepatitis B, C, and A are also sexually transmitted. A preliminary diagnostic test is critical to prevent their progressive damages.

Youth are protected from hepatitis B and human papilloma because they take vaccinations. Verify if you have already been vaccinated and if you haven’t already received the vaccination, make sure you consult your doctor or your your local health department service regarding the proper procedures to follow.

Am I putting it on properly?

Follow the subsequent tips and you will be able to use condoms properly.


Never use the same condom twice. The used condoms are externally contaminated by the body fluids of the person that has been penetrated, therefore they need to be eliminated once the penis has been withdrawn. Condom helps to protect both the person that is wearing it as well as the person that is subjected to penetration. If the sex game is being frolicked by different number of sexual partners, then a different condom must be used at each change of a partner.

Do not be subjected to pornographic and media portrayals. Each person has its own specific anatomical shape and sexual pleasure is not measured in centimeters.

In general, the average size of condoms is valid for almost anyone. If the condom you are using tends to slip out because it’s too big for the diameter of your penis, then you and your partner run the risk of not being properly protected during the sexual intercourse. You can choose a condom that fits you as the sizes are mentioned on the box.

You should also change condoms if you feel that is too small for your size and you have a hard time putting it on. You should not run the risk of damaging the condom with your nails or extending it to a point of laceration as it may lead to unprotected sexual intercourse.

The natural latex rubber the condoms are made of may cause allergic reactions. In that case, it’s best that you choose a latex-free condom made from a different non-latex material, for example DUREX LATEX FREE CONDOMS.

To love and to love respectfully

The secret to pleasuring your girl is to respect her and her body. We should not fixate on pornographic suggestions and the media portrayal of sex.

We should not assume that our sexual pleasure automatically equals that of our respective partner. A guy should pay attention to the signs put forth by the girl, he should know whether he is hurting her or doing something wrong. Making love is not supposed to be an egoistic act, but it’s the mutual pleasing of two partners.

We should always remember to use condoms to protect ourselves and our partners (safe sex). If the penetration process appears to be difficult due to excessive friction, lack of muscular relaxation, or due to vaginal dryness then a lubricant should be used. We should never resort to the use of body creams or other fluid substances as they are not suitable for mucosal contact and may contain substances only recommended for external use, that easily rip the condom. A lubricant on the other hand is clinically tested for internal use, has a liquid content, does not damage the latex rubber of the condom, and by reducing friction allows the protection of the condom from potential tears.

If you wish to engage in anal intercourse, with mutual decision between you and your partner, then even greater protective measures should be taken. The use of lubricant becomes indispensable to avoid pain caused by the resistance of the sphincters or by the friction between the penis and the rectal mucosa. Always keep in mind that anal intercourse should be done only following a mutual consensus between the partners involved, and it should in no way be imposed as it can easily lead to undesired acts and to violence. Only if the two partners consent, if the set-up is relaxing, and there is a preexisting mutual trust, then only then does anal intercourse become acceptable.

Let’s not confuse unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease. Anal intercourse should always be exerted with the use of condoms because the exchange of traces of blood during this sexual act is common, therefore the passage of virus and other infectious agents is facilitated. The residual sperm inside the rectum after ejaculation may lead to the transmission of STDs.

In our culture, menstruation has maintained a negative connotation of impurity, forcing the woman to live a normal and necessary physiological phenomenon as being shameful. Women liberated themselves from the prejudice surrounding menstruation, and menstrual blood in no longer seen as a segregating factor devoiding the women of family, social and sexual life. This however is not true for all cultures.

During a menstrual cycle a woman may show signs of increase in sexual desires, just like other hormonal changes she goes through. Nothing stops a woman from engaging in sexual intercourse while she is menstruating. When she and her partner find it pleasing, there is no reason why they should refrain from sex. Safe sex and the correct use of condoms is always recommended. An additional precaution that should be taken is the use of a towel to absorb the liquid that, because of muscular contractions, may be released excessively during the sexual intercourse.

Compared to penetration, oral intercourse shows lower risk rates of STDs. However, if the seminal liquid contacts the mouth mucosae it may create leeway for STDs. During oral intercourse, there exists the risk of contracting gonorrhea even when ejaculation doesn’t take place. The bacteria that causes it may be found in the vaginal or penile discharge and may infect the oral cavity by simply entering in contact with it.

Does sperm always taste the same?

Sperm taste may be unpleasant and this may be the reason of your partner’s refusal. One way to prevent this sensation is to use a condom, especially the use of flavored condoms that are laced in order to cover the taste of latex rubber.

Only a small portion of sperm cells (1-2%) constitute the seminal liquid, the remaining portion is made up of water containing solution of different substances. The odor and taste typical of seminal liquid is particularly due to spermine and spermidine, having important functions to maintain the ability of sperm cells to fertilize the ovum. Just like any other body fluid, seminal liquid varies both in odor and taste from one man to another based on individual characteristics. Due to age, genetic factors, and frequency of ejaculation seminal liquid varies in viscosity, density, and volume.

Very often we ask ourselves if we can improve the taste of seminal liquid.

We should always pay attention if odor, taste and physical aspect of seminal liquid undergo any visible variation. Especially, if we notice a yellowing of the seminal liquid we must refer this to our doctor to avoid neglecting an inflammation of the sexual organs.

The strong salty taste may in part be fixed with proper hydration. The good lifestyle rules of drinking a lot of water, having a diet rich in fruits, avoiding food with high protein and fat contents, show visible consequences in the odor and taste of our body fluids, primarily in our sweat, with light changes in the seminal liquid as well. A healthy lifestyle, a proper diet, and regular sexual activity permit us to be

happier and more pleasant to be around people, in particular with people whom we are closely intimate with.

Ugly unwanted hair

Mainstream culture and advertisements constantly push as to desire a body without body hair.

Body hair serve a specific physiological function and we cannot completely get rid of them. Their distribution throughout the human body is regulated by sexual hormones and specific genetic factors.

In our culture, women have few body hair and tend to eliminate them using various depilatory methods. With recent increase in the number of guys also resorting to this habit. Depilation must be executed with care to avoid causing damage to the skin. The depilatory products should be applied with care following the instruction manual written on the box, while razors and blades should be avoided as they can easily cause irritation and skin infection.

Laser is effective only on black hair, because it acts on melanin, the pigment responsible of their coloration. However, an improper use may lead to skin depigmentation as the laser acts on melanin present in the skin as well. In other cases, the dermatologist may prescribe depilation by electrocoagulation of hair bulbs, a long term, delicate and expensive treatment.

We talked about skin! But when the body hair is near the sexual organs then we should double the caution taken to depilate. The skin depilatory products like creams and strips should never enter in contact with the genital mucosae. Moreover, an inexperienced hand may cause razor cuts.

The body of a young individual does not display the final distribution of body hair because he or she did not reach the optimum hormonal balance yet. Hurriedly opting for depilation may be a response to the anxiety of accepting and appreciating ones’ own body, however this may be in vain and dangerous. Most problems are solved in their own time as the body overcomes the transformation underwent during adolescence and reaches a greater harmony.